Yesterday Doug had surgery to replace his aortic heart valve. Along with that, the surgeon removed a section of his aortic arch that had pinched and then below the pinch, expanded. Originally we'd hoped that part of the surgery wouldn't be necessary, but in the end we were thankful it was.
After the five-hour surgery was over, the surgeon came out to the waiting area to tell me how it went. He said Doug's heart valve was in the top five worst he's ever seen in terms of calcification. He asked if I wanted to see a photo of it, and I did. It looked like a stalagmite. Rather than red and pink, it was almost all white, with spikes of calcium growing all around and in it. He showed me where one valve was, and then showed me how the other two had merged together. And that was why he had the problem in the first place. There should be three tissue membranes in the valve and there were only two. It wouldn't have mattered what Doug did or didn't do in his life, the valve replacement would've been inevitable.
The surgeon also told me the calcification had spread down the walls of his heart chamber, and that he'd removed it. If he hadn't been replacing the portion of the aortic arch, he wouldn't have had the room to get in and scrape the calcium away. He did. So he did.
Doug and I were very anxious yesterday morning, as you would imagine. The surgeon did several things out of character when he arrived at 5:30 in the morning. First, the nurse told us we wouldn't see him until the very last minute before the surgery. And it was unlikely I'd still be in the room when he got there. Instead, he came in an hour and a half before the surgery and sat down and talked with us. Before he left, he shook Doug's hand, and then instead of shaking mine, he hugged me, and told me he'd take good care of Doug and "bring him back to me." The nurse asked if we knew him before the surgery, since she'd never seen him hug a family member, nor make any promise other than he'd take good care of the patient.
After the anesthesiologist and the perfusionist talked with us and the surgeon left the room, it was time for me to leave. It was so hard to leave. I hugged Doug so hard, and kissed him a hundred times. His eyes didn't leave mine until I was out of the room.
I was alone in the waiting area for about five minutes before my friend Carolyn walked in, Starbucks in hand, followed by a big hug. A few minutes after that my other friend Cathy walked in, who had stopped by the house to pick up the Xanax prescription that came in VERY handy yesterday.
And then we waited. For five hours. There were three updates during the surgery, which I appreciated very much, followed by the surgeon's post-surgery visited I talked about above. Before he left he said it would be an hour or more before Doug would be in intensive care and before I'd be able to see him. He suggested that if I hadn't eaten, it would be a good time to do so.
On our way to the hospital earlier that morning, we drove by Johnny's Navajo Hogan. Doug said, "If everything goes okay today, you should do a shot in my honor at Johnny's." So I did. Two in fact. The second brought by the waiter, who said to congratulate my husband and give him his best wishes for a speedy recovery.
When we got back to the hospital, I checked in at the ICU desk. After a few minutes the receptionist told me that Doug's nurse was just about to call me to tell me I could come see him. The woman handed me a badge and gave me directions to find him. I walked down the hall of the unit and could see him through a window at the end of the hall. When I got close enough that he could see me, he smiled.
The other thing the surgeon had told me in his post-surgery visit was that the anesthesiologist said Doug was doing so well, he planned to take the breathing tube out before he went to ICU. Previously we had been told it would be five or six hours before it was removed. It was GREAT to see Doug without it, breathing on is own, and able to talk.
We held hands, talked, I explained what I knew, and Doug grumbled about how his two nurses wouldn't give him any water, only ice chips. His diatribe was peppered with enough swear words that I knew his recovery was going be quick. My experience is when you're feeling well enough to complain that much, you're on the road to being better.
Around five Doug insisted I go home so I wasn't driving in the dark. I was having a hard time keeping my eyes open, so I agreed. I think I was sound asleep before seven last night, and woke after six this morning. It is probably the best night's sleep I've gotten since November 2.
I talked to Doug this morning. His voice is still a little slurred, but not much. They were about to get him up and have him sit in a chair. I can't get into the ICU until eight, so as soon as I finish writing this, I'll head over.
I don't remember who texted me yesterday, or who posted Facebook messages, or commented on the status updates I posted throughout the day, but I do know I appreciate every single one of you. I couldn't have gotten through the day yesterday without my friends and family . . . or without knowing that Greg and Vicki were at the house, watching YouTube videos about how to get the new snowblower put together so it was ready for last night's impending storm.
Thank you all for covering my sweet husband in prayer. And for loving and caring about him and our family. I can't say thank you enough.