As a writer, or even an aspiring writer, reading is both overwhelmingly stimulating, and devastatingly debilitating. It is impossible not to compare your own writing to that of the book you're reading. Sometimes it's better, but often, it isn't. Or you think it isn't, which is really the point.
I can't always write. Sometimes I simply don't have the time. And then when I do have the time, I can't do it. I start to reread what I've written previously, maybe the most recent ten pages, to get myself back in the swing of it. If I hate all ten of those pages, I'll sometimes go back to the beginning. If I cannot read the first page without hating every single word, I close up the file, and find something else to do. Because I know I don't really hate it. I have enough experience at this point to know there will be days I really hate it, and then there will be other days I think "Why did I hate this? I love it."
I always hope for the love it days. Because I hate the hate it days. I feel defeated. So I read. And then I feel more defeated.
Today is a hate it day. Mainly because I'm reading a book I love. It's intriguing, well written, with very few things in it that annoy me. When I finish this book, which I'll do shortly, there is no way in hell I can go tackle the end of my book. It would be easy to say I'll set this book aside, and go write, but it's too late. There is a very slight chance that if I finish this book today, I'll be able to write tomorrow.
The thing is, that I'm fairly certain every writer feels this way. I remember watching a 60 Minutes interview with Chris Martin. This was several years ago, before he did interviews. He was talking about Adele's "Rolling in the Deep." He talked about how he'd listen to it and it would make him mad, and frustrated . . . because he didn't write it. I would guess that like literary writers, songwriters listen to other songs, wish their songs were as good as whatever song they're listening to. Some may even attempt to write a song "like" it. Case in point, there are too many songs out right now that sound like Mumford and Sons. It's their sound, I want to say. Do your own sound.
As much as it is tempting to try to write like someone else, or say to myself that if I could write like someone else, then I'd be a good writer. This morning I recalled reading Fitzgerald's letters to Hemingway. Hemingway was full of self-recrimination, doubt, depression . . . and Fitzgerald responded as a friend would. A couple weeks ago Doug and I watched Genius, about Thomas Wolfe's relationship with Max Perkins and his books Look Homeward, Angel, and Of Time and the River. Perkins also edited for Hemingway and Fitzgerald. The movie was a fascinating glimpse into the relationship between editor and author, but also between authors.
What if, I thought while in the shower this morning, Hemingway attempted to mimic the writing of Wolfe? Or if Fitzgerald had? It would certainly have tortured their souls exponentially more than they already were. And what would we, as readers, have lost?
I am not ready to write the book or books that throw me into the most tortured version of myself. I may never be. I may never be brave enough. I write nice stories. That's it. Stories that make me happy, stories I like to read. The book I'm reading now is a nice story. I'm not big on the tortured souls stuff. I used to be, but I'm not anymore.
I suppose it's because reading them would force me to look deeper, challenge myself more, and I don't want to. There may come a day that I do, but it's unlikely. I envy those three men, and so many others who are considered great authors, and then I wonder if I could write something more profound if I tried. Maybe. Maybe not.
I wrote the other day that someone had private messaged me on Facebook telling me they wanted to write a book, and were looking for advice. I told them the same thing I tell everyone who asks me about writing. Write. And then write some more. And keep writing. And soon you'll know whether you can write a book or not.
A friend who has a healthy opinion of themselves, told me they were going to write a book. As if it's the easiest thing in the world. And then a few months later, said, "I tried. I couldn't do it." Yes, it's difficult.
Even when you find you can write a book, it doesn't mean you can write the book. Today, or at least right now, I can't write any book. But tomorrow, maybe. Or maybe I'll keep reading.